COVID-19 has created heightened emotions for everyone, often bringing feelings of lack of control, helplessness, and isolation to many.
To protect your mental health during this unprecedented time, it’s important to take care of your personality when it’s out of sync from our new, fluctuating environment.
Lois W. Choi-Kain, MEd, MD, director of the Gunderson Personality Disorders Institute at McLean Hospital, discusses lessons learned from borderline personality disorder (BPD) treatment that help us to manage high emotions, embrace key components of your personality, and become more comfortable with uncertainty.
Dr. Choi-Kain shares techniques to be collaborative in high-stress situations, regulate emotion, and get back on track.
This content is also available in Spanish.
Dr. Choi-Kain answers a few questions from attendees including:
- How can I keep myself from getting angry, anxious, or upset easily?
- Any suggestions on how to not over-interpret how other people are feeling and how they are emoting? Everybody is stressed, everybody is anxious, but how do you maintain your own emotions and not take on other people’s feelings?
Top 10 Lessons From Therapies for BPD
According to Choi-Kain, BPD teaches us quite a bit about surviving crises:
- Emotion (dys)regulation is like a snowball.
- Uncertainty is uncomfortable and essential.
- Acceptance of painful realities is the road to surviving pain with less suffering.
- Reflection improves relationships and relationships improve reflection.
- Be descriptive, not judgmental.
- Aim to be effective, rather than right.
- Curiosity opens conversations, trust, and learning.
- It is easier (and less costly) to control yourself than to control others.
- Happiness is a fleeting state. Goals and values last longer.
- We are doing the best we can and can always do better.
About Dr. Choi-Kain
Dr. Lois W. Choi-Kain is the director of the Gunderson Personality Disorders Institute at McLean Hospital. The Gunderson Institute includes intensive, specialized programs, such as the Gunderson Residence and Gunderson Outpatient Program, as well as three insurance-based adult outpatient training clinics for mentalization-based treatment (MBT), dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT), and DBT for post-traumatic stress disorder (DBT-PTSD).
Learn more about Dr. Choi-Kain.
More COVID-19 Resources
It’s important to think about ways to manage your mental health during these difficult times. McLean is committed to providing mental health and self-care resources for all who may need them. You and your family may find these strategies from McLean experts helpful to feel mentally balanced and safe during the coronavirus outbreak.